I’ve never been the type of person to get caught up in all the hoopla of the New Year. However, if your mini-feeds are anything like mine, I’m sure you are being flooded with everyone’s New Year resolutions.
For the last couple months I’ve been experiencing a different way of living; not going out every time a friend calls, not getting my hair done every week (which is SUPER important to me) and not enjoying many other pleasures that I never stopped to think wasn’t a necessity, but a luxury. This change was definitely for the better because my focus completely shifted! I started to put all my energy toward staying in God’s will, and because of this I started to feel a sense of peace, which I know came from no one but God. Of course I am not saying you must give up the things you enjoy to have peace, this was just a season that I had to submit myself to.
On Christmas Eve, I heard a statement I will never forget, “HOW, is the key to heaven’s explanation.” (#CBW) After hearing this, I’ve been asking God; HOW am I going to balance being a business owner while working to set myself up for the future? HOW am I going to prepare myself to be the wife & mother I want me to be? These are some of the questions that I know heaven’s explanation in 2011, will prepare me in 2012 to continue in my flow, without any doubts. Sometimes, we wonder how the heck are we suppose to accomplish what’s in front of us (or maybe that’s just me), not realizing when we don’t have the ability, God has an answer on HOW to get it done.
With this season of my life coming to an end, I am making sure these next four days I do not miss anything God is showing me to prepare myself for the seasons to come. This isn’t about New Year resolutions, but more so HOW to get all I am suppose to out of 2011. So, as I tell myself, I tell you…don’t rush into 2012, there will be a whole new obstacle to tackle, so get all that you can here and now to prepare you…just ask HOW!
Do you ever wake up in the morning needing a shoe fix like some people need their coffee fix? Yes??? I’m happy to know I’m not alone!
For those of you who appreciate the world of heels as much as I do, here is some shoe caffeine for you from the Spring 2012 collections (click to enlarge):
Pantone has announced that “Tangerine Tango” will be the color of year 2012. Which of course is already being noted as one of Spring’s 2012 top ten colors. “Sophisticated but at the same time dramatic and seductive, Tangerine Tango is an orange with a lot of depth to it,” said Leatrice Eiseman, executive director of the Pantone Color Institute.
Elie Tahari Spring 2012
Nanette Lepore Spring 2012
For those that aren’t familiar with the Pantone Color of the Year, this selection is a very thoughtful process. Pantone searches the world looking for color influence. This may include the entertainment industry, films in production, art collections and popular travel destinations. Influence can also stem from technology and even worldwide sporting events.
Lucky us, we can see fashion collections before they hit the racks! However, we’ll have to wait to see this vibrant color in art collections and films. As we see “Tangerine Tango” unfold in the fashion and beauty industries we will be sure to share.
Will you be wearing Tangerine Tango?
As some of you know, we’ve been talking about our “I am a Girl of Beauty Spa Party” on Facebook & Twitter. Well, today was the big day and it was everything we could ever wish for. The entire ride home all I could think about was getting to my computer to blog.
The vision of Girl of Beauty randomly popped in my head one day while doing work at Panera Bread. At the time, I didn’t have a reason why, but I said, if the idea came to mind then I must follow through. As we started planning I realized the importance of having this event. I often tell my friends how much I now appreciate all the things my mother exposed my sister and I to growing up; not necessarily materialistic things but experiences. She would always tell us, “I want to expose you to this, so your first experience won’t be on a date, where a man has to show you a lifestyle that you aren’t already accustom to.” I recall her saving money to take us to Ruth’s Chris and plays at the Kimmel Center, memories I will never forget. The experiences I had as a child is the exact reason why I understand the importance of exposing girls to a certain “lifestyle” at a young age. What you instill now will stick with them forever, and this is why the I am a Girl of Beauty Spa Party meant so much to me.
I was overjoyed to spend my Saturday with beautiful girls who dream big and “just wanna have fun.” While some of the girls were waiting to indulge in their Princess Chocolate Facials & manicures we created Dream books. Using markers and stickers, they expressed what they want to be when they grow up; whether a dentist, barbie or fairy, all the girls knew they were a #GirlOfBeauty and anything is possible.
As the Girl of Beauty soundtrack played and I watched the girls dance to songs such as, “This is Me” “Don’t You Know Your Beautiful” and “The Climb,” all I could think to myself was I want every girl to grow up thinking this way about themselves. Each girl went home with their own soundtrack of over 10 songs about beauty, being unique and never giving up. I pray that ever time they listen to any of the songs the powerful words will remind them that they are a Girl of Beauty!
As the facials were underway, we couldn’t keep the girls out of the room because they wanted to see each girl have the same experience they did. By the end of the event they knew the exact steps to giving a facial. We would hear comments like, “now your going to put cucumbers on my eyes.” This is when I knew that this was an experience they would never forget.
Be sure to checkout all the photos from the event here and lookout for future Girl of Beauty Events.
Are you an African- American girl between the ages of 13-18, living in NY, NJ, PA, DE or MD, with at least a B average? If your answer is yes, you can become the next cover girl for the 2012 “Uniquely You” Summit for girls.
(CLICK ON PHOTO FOR IMPORTANT GUIDELINES)
Three steps you MUST take:
1. Write a 500 word essay, explaining why it is imperative for black girls to see positive images of other black women & girls in media.
2. You must upload a 2 minute YouTube video explaining why you are UNIQUELY YOU.
3. You must provide a scanned or electronic image of your most current report card.
Uniquely You Summit (UYS) was created to give African-American girls the opportunity to learn who they are before the world defines them. UYS has been a life-changing experience for girls in the past. The summit events help break down the barriers of social norms that stand in the way of a girl’s ability to become a hopeful, confident and strong young woman.
A STYLd LIFE supports UYS, we believe that it’s very important for girls to have role models in their community who they can reach out to and gain wisdom for life. It’s not the media’s responsibility to raise our girls, so lets take action and support. We ask you to pass this information along to girls in your neighborhood and/or family so they too, can have the opportunity to be a cover girl!
You can learn more about UYS here
I just left the Philadelphia screening of Janks Morton’s documentary, “Dear Daddy.” I learned of this event from following Uniquely You, which by the way is an amazing organization- check it out! I’ve been preparing my mind all week for this, because I did not know what to expect. “Dear Daddy” documents girls writing letters to their fathers expressing their hurt, pain and anger from not being apart of their lives. My father died when I was 13 years-old, so I could relate to some of the feelings that were expressed tonight. While I thought I had to prepare myself to watch “Dear Daddy,” it wasn’t the documentary that made me emotional tonight. I was moved by the personal stories from teenage girls in the same room as me.
Janks Morton gave his theory on helping girls to heal, that is to WRITE, REFLECT and CONNECT. At first I eliminated myself from writing a Dear Daddy letter, since I no longer experience anger and pain from my father’s death. It wasn’t until I got home and couldn’t gather my thoughts that I realized I should write. So here we go…
I miss you very much, I wish you were here to see all that you worked so hard for. Sometimes I question God on why He had to take you from us so soon. Not so that I can still have a father, but so you can still be here to see your daughter’s become women. All my memories of you are being a family man, wanting the best for everyone around you. Often times, I don’t think it’s fair that you were such an amazing father and didn’t get to see your hard work pay off. I feel like I’ve lived two lives, the one when you were here and now living without you. When I look back on the time that I spent with you, I feel as though I died and came back as a girl without a father. When you were here our house was a home, since you’ve been gone, I’ve had to figure out how to adjust. I had to go through being in relationships to fill a void and on the flip side being strong for Courtney (u know she was a daddy’s girl). As I got older and started to learn about myself, I’ve realized that I had to deal with the pain of you not being here. Through that, I’m finding myself! What makes me smile is that we didn’t have to find great things to say about you when you past, your life showed it. I remember you being so creative, doing my entire science project to the point I couldn’t even explain it to my class- How does someone make a plant grow through a maze? Only my dad! You would help all your nieces with any project they had. I remember you teaching Courtney and I how to golf (even though I still suck). These are the memories that I am going to share with my children. I will never forget mommy telling me, how much of an amazing man you were. Now, instead of questioning God on why he took you, I thank him for giving me such an amazing father. I vow to make you proud!
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Carol’s Daughter Love Butter H by Halston
Yogi Chamomile Tea Jo Malone Fragrance Collection
Hudson Park Steel Throw Journal
Top: BCBGeneration. Sweater: H&M. Jeans: Guess. Shoes: Charles Jourdan. Bag: Romeo& Juliet Couture. Jewelry: Vintage, Silpada, Paula Ashley, Banana Republic.
Jacket: H&M. Shirt: The Dream Collection by SolidStitch. Jeans: Pinkney Turner. Shoes: Zigisoho. Bag: Vintage. Jewelry: Chico’s, Michael Kors.
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